POPS FERNANDEZ - Single and
by Leah C. Nemil, Woman Today, October 20, 1999
Pops Fernandez isn't a new woman yet but with her faith that things
will work out,
she is clearly on her way.
When news broke out that showbiz's perfect" couple, Martin Nievera and Pops
Fernandez, had indeed
gone their separate ways, what should have been a private affair was inevitably played out
on the front
pages of newspapers, radio and television. For months, media fanned the flames of the
trying to outdo each other by coming out with "exclusive" stories on what really
Probably without meaning to, Martin and Pops also helped fuel the publicity of their
Martin's sudden departure from their Sunday show, ASAP, without Pops' knowledge, Pops'
copious tears when Martin read her a poem during the 1998 Star Awards plus the numerous
interviews they gave served only to heighten the drama of it all.
That was a year ago. Today, Pops chooses to keep silent on the subject of her husband,
questions pertaining to Martin or their relationship. During the interview, she kept a
tight rein on her
emotions and chose her words carefully lest she be misunderstood.
"A lot of people have been putting meaning into the things I do, thinking that they
know me pretty
well," Pops says. "But they don't. For example, some people see me as serious
and masungit but,
that's just because of the way I look. I am actually a funny person and I love to
Then with just a omen of hesitation, she adds, "But the sadder I get, the funnier and
become. I laugh a lot so I don't need to think about the stress... above the sad
Work has also become a welcome distraction - and respite - for Pops and it is what
for her time these days.
"It has definitely become an outlet for my emotions, a place where I can express
myself better," Pops
A Daring Pops?
Indeed, after more than 10 years, Pops has finally decided to go back to the movies to see
future holds for her there. "Why a movie just now? Obviously, because I have
to," she says. "I can't
keep doing concerts all the time. I mean, how many can you do of those? Maybe I also want
develop a talent that I never gave much thought or time to before."
The film, which Pops has almost wrapped up, is entitled Linlang and also stars Richard
Joyce Jimenez. Richard plays the husband, Pops and wife and Joyce the mistress. No, this
is not the
much-ballyhooed movie that Pops supposedly kept changing her mind about late last year.
describes it as Pops making an "urong-sulong" decision.
"Why is everybody saying that (urong-sulong)?" Pops says as she rolls her eyes
"You know, I wasn't comfortable enough to do that film. Even Boss Vic (del Rosario,
honcho) said that it probably wasn't the right time or the right project for me, for that
wanted me to wait and finally, Linlang came along. I accepted it because Maryo J. Delos
the director. I've worked with him before, so that was good. I also liked the storyline.
Although this film
has Richard and Joyce in it as well, it's really a different project altogether."
However, showbiz insiders say the plot, which revolves around deception, is hauntingly
bears more than cursory similarities to Pops' own life story.
"I play the wife here but the character is so different from who I really am,"
Pops stresses. "When
people will see the film, most of them will probably say, `ay, naku, I'm sure she went
through that (in
real life)' but no, it's totally a different situation."
One question about the film that Pops has tired of answering is the topic her
"daring" love scenes with
"Everybody is asking me about that," Pops says as she shakes her head. "You
know, it's daring for
me but not compared to the scenes of Joyce and Richard! `Yon ang daring! Even the role
daring enough for me especially if you're going to compare the roles I played before. All
pa-tweetums. This was very mature and challenging."
Though she did some movies for Regal Films as a teenager, doing the ABS-CBN miniseries May
Nagmamahal Pa Rin Sa 'Yo was Pops' first real test as an actress. For the first time, she
was in front
of a camera having to portray someone with a personality very different from hers.
"That helped me a
lot filming this movie. During the first episodes of Nagmamahal..., everything felt really
weird. I just
didn't know what I was doing. It was so difficult playing someone you're not in front of
Her Favorite Role
With her new movie, an upcoming album - "a very personal one with a lot of songs
reflecting what I
have been through from the time I was young up to now" - business ventures (like a
beauty salon) and
a newfound writing career on the side (she has a regular column in a major daily's
Pops definitely has her hands full. However, she clarifies that despite what people may
continues to fulfill her most treasured role as a mother to Robin, 12, and Ram, 9.
"Believe it or not, I still find quality time for my kids. In fact, I think we are
all much closer now kesa
noon when I was at home often. We talk a lot, we are more open with each other now... We
like eat out, go to the movies or make an out-of-town trip."
In raising her two boys, Pops has decided not to go the "typical conservative
mother" route, describing
herself as a "cool mom." She treats her kids as grown-ups who know exactly what
they're doing and
what is going on around them.
"I grew up in a very conservative environment where my mom always had the last say,
where her word
was always right and only her rules should be followed," Pops recalls. "I felt
stifled and not as
confident as I would have wanted to be with my ideas and thoughts. Although I knew what I
couldn't move on.
"So I tell my boys that I have rules but if they feel they can come up with better
reasons for doing
things, we will sit together and talk about it. I want them to grow up and be more
themselves than I was. It's hard because sometimes you want to be close-minded in order to
them but you can only do so much. What they really need is your guidance and
Although Pops admits that life as a single mom has been difficult, she concedes it is only
she has to juggle much of her time between her career and children and not because she
as both their mother and father.
"I am not trying to be a father because they still have their own dad," Pops
says. "There are some
things that my kids can only share with him and I respect that."
Despite rumors linking her to Troy Montero (who has been interviewed on TV saying that he
are "just good friends, and I thank her for letting me be her friend"), Pops
avers that Robin and Ram
are the most important people in her life right now.
"My kids are my inspiration. They are the ones who have motivated me to go on with
life. They are the
reasons why I want to become a better person."
Looking back, Pops says she has no regrets even if life has brought her a lot of pain and
lives will never be perfect. There will always be things that will disappoint us like we
may be the
happiest person in the world at the moment. And yet, we still find ourselves asking can we
happier," she reflects. "For me, happiness is how I make and choose to live my
life. And I am a great
believer in life, in God and in His ways."
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